7 Lessons I learned In the First 35 pages of ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari’ By Robin Sharma
Part 1: Simple thoughts that we tend to forget or neglect.
We want happiness but fear the sorrow, which make us vulnerable to both.
When life knocks us apart, as it usually does a lot; we run for a saviour in any form, a teacher, a doctor, a psychiatrist, a friend, a lover, or a book.
When my life got fucked up, I ran toward a book given to me by my friend. ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari.’ by Robin Sharma and he became my saviour for that time and till now, whenever life makes me kneel; I sit back and read the book again. It’s my blessing in disguise.
The book reminds me of the thoughts that I tend to forget and neglect whenever I’m in my vulnerable state. Well! We justify our vulnerability and ignore the fact that ‘this too shall pass’ or ‘everything ends well and if not, then it’s not the end.’
When Life Gives You More Than You Can Stand, Kneel.
Happy times make us strong, it’s the hard we have to deal with. therefore, let’s learn together about 7 simple and meaningful lessons that will help us to win the cricket match of life.
1. Only the thought of leaving is hard, not the actual leaving.
Real generosity toward the future consists in giving all to what is present. — Albert Camus
Holding on to the baggage from past burdens not only your present but the future too. Past has been expired and expired things whether living or non-living are meant to be either thrown or burnt.
How hypocrite of us that we always associate past with something evil and bad and memories with something divine and good. Well! Good doesn’t tend to harm us, therefore, it better to say that don’t cling on to bad past experiences and memories.
for example, Why do you think that breaking up with anyone takes a lot of time than patching up? Ah! Cause we cling on to the thought that leaving them would be harder, ‘we won’t be able to live without them’ but these are mere words; did you die after breaking up? I Guess Naah, Cause I’m still alive.
Therefore, Leave Before You Lost A Lot Of Your Peace.
2 Happiness fades away with materials but experiences.
The moment I stopped spending so much time chasing the big pleasures of life, I began to enjoy the little ones, like watching the stars dancing in a moonlit sky or soaking in the sunbeams of a glorious summer morning. — Robin Sharma
The misconception of happiness is Miswanting; ‘Act of being mistaken about what and how much you will like something in the future.’
We think that good grades, good looks, good job, more money, true love, and awesome stuff will make us happy but experimentally proven, it will not. Of Course, thinking about it and eventually getting it will make us happy for a limited amount of time but sooner the happiness will fade.
But experiences will make you happy for a longer time, whenever you will remember them. Question yourself, what makes you happier; last trip to your favourite destination or a car you bought years ago?
Memories impact the mind more than material. That’s why the death of a person is more saddening than the breaking of stuff. Therefore, next time whenever you are living the moment of your life, stop and savour it. Savoring: the act of stepping outside of an experience to review and appreciate it.
Invest In Experiences, Not Material.
3 Failures are essential for personals expansion.
Every event has a purpose and every setback its lesson. — Robin Sharma
Everyone says, “taking the first step is most crucial for the journey of success, take the first step and things will fall right in place eventually.” But none tells that the first step mostly will lead to failures first.
Honestly, it’s never the first step cause it never ends to be the first step. The first step to thinking about what you wanna be. The first step to figuring out what to do and how to start. The first step to implement and then how to sustain. Therefore, the journey of success is the continuous movement of the zillions’ first steps.
And trust me, failure will knock on your door a zillion times but the only time you’ll fail is when you give up by not taking another first step.
Keep enduring the failure, learning the lesson, and moving forward.
Failures Are Tragic Until The Lesson haven’t been Learned.
4 One’s destiny unfolds according to the choices one makes.
Great dreamers’ dreams are never fulfilled, they are always transcended. — Alfred Lord Whitehead
We tend to believe in destiny but neglect the role played by us. I’m sure if God has allowed us to go back in the past and change the choices we made and relive the consequences with new choices; then we could understand that our life depends on our choice, not destiny.
There is not just a single path made for us to move on, but millions of paths to choose from. So, next time don’t blame destiny; blame your own choices.
When things happen in our favor, we say ‘it’s luck’ and when against us, ‘it’s most probably written in our destiny’. Get over it, it’s just the choice we made and the perseverance we put into that led to the present consequences.
Choose Wisely, If It Feels Right Then Don’t Question It, Because None Can Provide The Answer Except The Future.
5 There is a huge difference between well being and being well off.
Success on the outside means nothing unless you also have success within. — Robin Sharma
Well-being — ‘the state of being comfortable, healthy, or happy.’ Well-Off — ‘wealthy or rich, whatever you prefer.’
Some say, “Always be satisfied in whatever you have cause many are deprived of the privilege that you enjoy.” Some say, “Never be satisfied and never settle for less, the satisfaction it prevents you from keep moving.”
No doubt, Satisfaction does limit the height of the sky and the size of the box.
But most often people only mean to talk about money, fame, and success in the context of satisfaction. Is success limited to money and fame only? That’s the drawback of some ideologies that persist in our society, the level of success has been measured by the amount of money, power, and fame only. But that doesn’t mean that most prominent ideology is always accurate, sometimes its nothing but a myth.
The definition of success needs to be altered and broaden now, it’s not just money, power, or fame but way more than that. Overall, happiness and peace of mind can be termed as a success, Helping others can be termed as a success and living life with a purpose can be termed as a success.
Being Well-Off Can Be Satisfied But Until You’re Not Well-Being, You can be called a successful person but feeling like a succesful person is important above all.
6 You can’t do good if you can’t even feel good.
Only when you have mastered the art of loving yourself that you can truly love others. It’s only when you have opened your own heart that you can touch the hearts of others. When you feel centered and alive, you are in a much better position to be a better person. — Robin Sharma
Even They say, “God helps those who help themselves” then how can you expect yourself to help others when you can’t help yourself?
I always see people wondering about how to love oneself when the actual question is why to love oneself and what is the significance of loving oneself.
Therefore, I’ll suggest you to first learn ‘Why is it significant to love yourself?’ and then we’ll together jump on the question, ‘how to love oneself?’
Because once you decide to do something then the only thing which keeps you moving is your will.
‘How to love oneself?’ is another journey which we’ll travel together surely in upcoming parts and much more. Until then,
Be Determined To Love Yourself In Order To Love Others.
7 When the student is ready, the teacher appears.
You seem to be full of your own ideas. And how can any more go in. . . until you first empty your cup? — Robin Sharma
Well! when you read the word ‘teacher’, does the only person who came to your mind was a person who teaches in school, coaching center, college; who gets salary to do so? If yes, then you only know the narrow definition of a teacher.
A teacher is a person who teaches anything in life, like your past is a teacher, your mistakes are the teacher, a book is a teacher and so much more. Whoever taught you anything in your life is your teacher; irrespective of gender, age, shape, size, existence, paid or not.
Our minds are filled with ideologies and beliefs, and to study or understand a new ideology; one needs to open the mind to let the knowledge enter in and suck in with an open heart.
One has to make space for new stuff by discarding the old, broken stuff. The same happens in case of knowledge and ideologies, old ones are to be either discarded or kept in the backroom of mind so that new ones can be adapted in order to evolve and develop.
Why is it important to evolve? Well! the simple answer to this would be the Charles Darwin Theory on the survival of the fittest, New ideologies are supposed to be adapted to evolve and survive with changes in the surroundings.
Therefore, all you need is determination and the path will show up on its own.
When You Are Ready To Adapt, Evolve, And Survive; Guidance Will Find Its Way To You In Any Form, That’s The Magic.
The book as a savior taught so many lessons to me in difficult times of my life and forwarding them is something which I owe to the book and myself.
Therefore, I solemnly wish that this story will help you learn the simple but meaningful lessons which I learned through ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari’ by Robin Sharma.
Part 1 is about ‘What’ & ‘Why’ but in upcoming parts, I would love to share the ‘Hows’ and practices which helped me so that I can help you.
I’ll be obliged and grateful to help, give me the chance to do so.
I Wanna Help Others In Order To Help Myself.